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This is why we're not together

7/26/2014

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For some time, I believed that you were one of the closest people to me; my confidante, my ally, my go to person and my "buffer" when things went south. You were one of the few people I actually considered a friend. But then things turned sour when I started feeling differently. I never had expectations. I liked you but never really thought you would like me back. A part of me actually believed you did, on some level. But my inner self loathing told my heart to shut up. It told me what my head has always known, you and I are never going to happen. Not just because of our feelings but because of circumstances and timing as well. I recently watched a movie that placed that particular struggle into perspective. A character said this a few times: "Ang love story nila ay isang malaking kaso ng wrong timing" (Their love story is a big case of wrong timing). And I think that this is one of the reasons why we'll never happen. But that isn't why we're not together.

We're not together because you have a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend. I know people will judge this particular reason. I was once told that having feelings for another person while in a relationship is wrong. My response to this is simple, it's not wrong if you don't really act on your feelings. Feelings cannot be controlled but your actions can be. I did everything in my power to not act on my emotions and when it started being too heavy for me to handle, I told my boyfriend about them. And though I know he felt bad about it, he still accepted me. He stayed with me. He said he loves me and that my feelings for you changes nothing. Which brings us to reason number 2.

We're not together because no one can love me the way that he does (admittedly, I don't know how you are as a boyfriend. But I know this to be a fact). It sounds selfish and unfair but it's true. We're not together because I would rather be with someone who loves me more than I love him. I'm too much of a coward to start something uncertain with someone with a personality as volatile as yours.

We're not together because I'm not your ideal person and you aren't mine. You're immature and selfish and controlling while my boyfriend is mature, loving and though he can be overprotective he knows his limits. I, on the other hand, am probably the farthest thing to your ideal girl. Let's leave it at that.

We're not together because I feel like my heart breaks when I see you, while he makes my heart soar. He makes me lighter while you make me feel like the whole world is ending. You bring out the worst in me while he makes me want to be a better person.

I have a few dozen reasons why we aren't together, but this one is probably the biggest and most important one. We are both too afraid. I'm too scared to leave my comfort zone and you're too afraid of rejection (assuming you have feelings for me the way my desperate and stupid heart is telling me). I'm too afraid to fight and you're too much of a coward to even start anything. We are both struggling with our inner demons and no matter what happens, we'll both end up losing. We'll lose ourselves and we'll lose the people that love us. This is why we're not together. Because you and I, we were never meant to happen.


And now, when I think of you, I just try to see you as a challenge. You are a hurdle to get past. You are a test. You are fate trying to shake my faith in love. You are the new phase that I've trying to move away from, the self destructive ome. You are bad news waiting to happen. You are heartbreak on steroids. You are, quite possibly, the biggest mistake I could ever make. You are a phase, and I think it's time that I outgrow you. ​

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    Closure

    The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines closure as "a feeling that something has been completed or that a problem has been solved". I used to feel that way too. But recently, I've come to think of closure differently.

    Sometimes, closure comes not from answered questions or problems solved, but from the realization that you have spent so much time trying to fix something that wasn't even broken to begin with.

    Sometimes people just discard other people. Sometimes, we just outgrow them. And sometimes, we just get tired of all the BS that letting go and moving on becomes the only option.

    Closure, comes from the acceptance that the book has ended and there are no sequels. It comes from the realization that breathing and living is possible, even with the unanswered questions.

    This, is a collections of stories that point towards one thing. A journey to finding Closure.
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